A Mother-in-Law's Reign of Terror
A divorce filing in Seattle reveals a domestic life shattered by constant, uninvited interference from a spouse's mother.
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Last month, Mrs. L. Shafer brought suit against her husband, Adalbert W. Shafer, for divorce. An amended complaint filed yesterday alleges a tale of woe. Mrs. Shafer claims that after their marriage in Minneapolis, her husband took her to live at his mother's house. During their three-month stay, the mother-in-law continually made uncomplimentary remarks about her daughter-in-law and her mother. During all this time, the husband made no attempt to defend his bride, but sided with his mother. The couple attempted to set up their own housekeeping, but the mother-in-law returned to protest the hiring of domestic help, again siding with her son. When the couple later moved to Seattle, the ubiquitous mother-in-law appeared again and moved into their home, causing more rows. Mrs. Shafer alleges that by 1892, her husband often accused her of undue intimacy with boarders. She now seeks custody of their two young daughters and alimony, claiming she is dependent on the charity of friends.
“Of course, no woman could be expected to stand such treatment as this within two months after her marriage, and so she left.”
Intergenerational living arrangements are increasingly common in today's high-cost housing market, yet the tension between personal autonomy and family expectation remains as fraught as it was in 1893. While the language of 'mother-in-law interference' is a tired trope, it masks real power imbalances within the home that, then as now, often lead to the dissolution of marriage.
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